We often pursue that which repulses us, it is the freak in our psyche that drives us to desire the wanton. Unfortunately, it can often lead us down the wrong path with the wrong person. My dearest Sarah, it seems to me that you are drawn to this guy because you are both disgusted and infatuated with him at the same time.
Unfortunately, I don’t think this guy will change his gangster mindset anytime soon, unless he realizes how “hard” he truly is when his gang of “wanna be thugs” aren’t around. Eventually his actions are going to land him with his just desserts when he pisses off the wrong person.
Honestly, I think this is one of those guys you just need to walk away from, he sounds like some serious excess baggage. No one wants to be with someone who is physically abusive to others.
The whole “Bad Boy” persona can be attractive at first, but after a while you see how pathetic they truly are. Low self-esteem and jealousy plague this type of personality.
My suggestion to you is to find a guy who is confident with himself and doesn’t feel the need to put others down in hopes of raising himself.
If you were to pursue this guy, it would be a one way ticket to confrontation and arguments. I chalk this attraction up to a case of rebellion against common sense.
Mark my words Sarah, this guy is only going to bring you heartache and drama. Find someone else to crush on, trust me and you’ll thank me later down the road.
-The Ambassador