I once received a t-shirt gift from a very close girlfriend of mine that read “a clear conscience is the sign of a bad memory.” Too often our inner thoughts deter us from living our lives freely, we bind ourselves down based upon ‘mistakes’ and ‘misjudgments’ we have made in the past. Sweet Hannah, the fact that your conscience is starting to interfere with your current relationship shows that there are some things from the past you are going to need to address before you can move forward with your life.
It sounds to me that you’re feeling some bad energy from your prior break up and the fact that you immediately started dating your ex’s best friend. Yes, the fact that you started dating your ex’s best friend right after the break up isn’t exactly found in the first chapter of the “bro code,” but you must remind yourself that you didn’t plot this out maliciously…things just happened. You both needed each other and were there for each other and the sparks just flew.
You must realize that you are not going to be close to your ex’s family ever again, that went out the window after the break up, because let’s face it blood is thicker than water. Yet, you can sooth your conscience by trying to make things right with your ex. Make an attempt to fix it with him by explaining the situation and that your intentions weren’t evil. I know it is selfish, but in order to appease your conscience you are going to have to get your ex to bury the hatchet. If he doesn’t then you are just going to have to learn to move on and live your life without his approval.
We can get bogged down with inner turmoil of the past to the point where we stop living in the present. My dearest Hannah, it sounds to me that you need to mend the past before you can take a step forward with your future relationships. Worst case scenario, you don’t get your ex’s approval and you move on…it’s just that simple.
-The Ambassador