If yo never try....you'll never know
If yo never try....you'll never know
Question:I find myself moving a lot, and after four months in southern Kansas, I'm up in New Jersey. And since my parents divorced, I'll be moving, a lot more, I fear. The problem here being that I never get a chance to make many friends. When I do, I tell them up front about my moving issue, and sometimes they don't care, but, eventually, we all lose contact. This summer, while driving into a small town in Oklahoma where my dad had some friends, I hung out at the local pool. I met a girl there, who was really nice, we had a great time. Everything I told her, it didn't faze her. I'm a bit crazy, and that can ward people off, and I'm bisexual too, but she didn't care. We haven't seen one another since. But, we exchanged phone numbers, and talked a lot, so you see...I really like her, but I just don't know what to do. I say I love her a bit, but she is taking it in a ‘friends’ sort of way [although she is rather dense I've realized] and I really miss her... But I just don't know what to do anymore, because I've tried long-distance, and I've noticed girls get a little...tired of not seeing me and my moving further and further. I've gotten a Myspace, since I've recently damaged my phone beyond repair, and now I've come in contact with her friends and her, which is helping, but, I almost miss her more. I don't really understand, because I'm feeling a lot different then I have about anyone else....any advice whatsoever? or should I just "blog it out" as I have been recommended to do? Thanks…
Matthieu
Answer:Nowadays the concept of “pen pals” has long since disappeared and has been replaced by wall posts and friend pokes. Long distance is now only measured by the amount of Mbps on your internet connection. Distance creates undeniable tension and Matthieu I can tell from your question that you’re confused as to whether you should address these long distance feelings that are running rampant throughout your head.
Well, in my opinion the answer is yes. If you are feeling something that you’ve never felt before, then I say it’s time to seize the day and frolic like a leprechaun that’s found a pot of gold. Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not going to be easy for you to tell this girl truly how you feel over the internet; so I think it’s time to reach out to some of the ‘friend’ connections you have made. Trust me, they can help you make it happen and plant the seed of lover’s cognition in her mind.
Honestly, I think the best move for you Matthieu is to pursue your feelings. Don’t just “blog it out” and wonder if she’s going to eventually read it and misconstrue the meaning. You have to take actions for yourself…make the first move and find a way to get back to Oklahoma and out of this misinterpreted friend zone. I would suggest hinting at your dad that he should go see his friends for the moral support from the divorce, and let you tag along.
Yet, alas I must warn you that if you do succeed, long distance love can be treacherous if you don’t have patience or trust. Dearest Matthieu, I wish you the best of luck and I hope you get the girl! Regardless, if you never try…you’ll never know.
-The Ambassador
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