Socializing with upperclassmen
Socializing with upperclassmen
Question:Hello ambassador, just this weekend marching band season ended, and I'm in a school district where the sophomores and freshman are in one school, upperclassmen in another. I have plenty of friends in both schools, but I'm afraid it will be awkward when I ask the upperclassmen for their phone numbers.
I've already gotten some, because it wouldn't be awkward, but the calling part is bothering me. One of the juniors informed me that his freshmen year he spent time with only upperclassmen, and he made it work. I'm just worried as to how to do that. Because not spending time with them is not an option. I've spent the past three months of my life with them and it'll be hard enough to be away this week, no less the whole year. Especially the seniors. Because I love my senior class, and I really don't want to not befriend the juniors before they depart next year.
Any idea on how to make any of it less odd when asking?
-Nervous
Answer:The social caste system of a high school is as complicated as a Rubix cube; when you rotate one section, it only sets you back two more. It is especially difficult when you are an underclassman and are attempting to socialize with the upperclassmen. Don’t worry “Nervous” the only way things will be awkward is if you allow them to be.
Don’t get me wrong, being in a school where the upperclassmen and lowerclassmen are separated could make communications difficult…but only during school hours. There will be plenty of time outside of school for you to mingle.
If you’ve already gotten some of their phone numbers then all you need now is some confidence. Of course it’s going to be a bit awkward the first time you ask them for their digits or actually call them on the cell, but realize you are going to have to show interest in order to get their attention. Talk to some of them that you have become close with and work from there…it will make you feel much more comfortable when approaching your “elders.”
My dearest “Nervous,” honestly I’m not worried about you making friends with the upperclassmen, but I’m just a tad bit worried that you are going to neglect befriending the people in your class. When the upperclassmen head off to college you will be forced to start all over senior year befriending people in your class. Just make sure you find a healthy balance between the social caste systems and you will never be alone. Be confident and be you, I’m positive you will find a way to make it work.
-The Ambassador
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