It’s always difficult to come to grips with someone who is close to you that has lied blatantly to your face. It makes it even more difficult, when that person is the one with whom you live. Everyday you are forced to look them in the eyes and not trust a word out of their mouth. Yet I must ask you this my dear Amanda B, do you think your roommate is lying to hurt you or cover up her own pain?

It sounds to me that from what you’ve said she has lied about, it seems she is having relationship troubles with her boyfriend and she doesn’t want to appear weak in front of you. No one likes to look pathetic in front of their friends, which is probably why she felt compelled to lie to you about how “perfect” her relationship is going.

This is a case where you confronting her will only give you both more stress in your lives. Let her carry on with her wayward fantasies, because honestly they don’t really affect you either way. If you’re getting frustrated by her relationship fabrications, then simply tell her that since you’re good friends with her boyfriend, there is no need to hear her relationship updates. Although, you may want to take this as a sign where she is trying to reach out to you and tell you how unwanted she is feeling right now.

Regardless, I know that you’re frustrated with her Amanda B, but you need to focus more upon why she is lying in the first place. She apparently feels extremely vulnerable in her relationship right now and is probably a tad bit jealous of your connection to her boyfriend. Either way, you need to be a good roommate for the time being and just let her carry on with her frivolous tales. Yet, if she starts spreading rumors and lies about you then all bets are off and it’s time for a sit down…let’s hope it doesn’t come to that. In the end, knowing the truth is all that matters my dear.

-The Ambassador