Even though it’s nice for the ego every once and a while to feel wanted, it’s never pleasant when you feel like a piece of meat. An easy solution to this problem is to be more selective with the men you socialize with. Adriana, I think the best way for you to stop feeling overwhelmed with men just wanting a one night stand is to “screen” the guys who you are going to spend time with.

Most guys who are only interested in sex will tend to be egocentric and focus upon themselves. They will talk about themselves and very smoothly compliment a physical attribute of yours, then try to woo you with a flashy meal. Don’t be fooled by these flickering flirtations, they will only lead to a man with a silver tongue. Also, they will care about their appearance to the point that if you jokingly insult them, they will blow a gasket. They will always have to be the center of attention, even if it means being cruel to someone else.

The keepers are going to be guys who will listen to you and pay more attention to your mind then your melons. They will hold the door for you, ask you questions, and not play games when it comes to being honest and upfront.

Besides being selective, you can try changing up your outfits so that they may seem a bit more conservative. Make a clear physical statement that you’re interested in more than just a one night stand. Guys will pick up on these simple nuances and not be overly aggressive when it comes to being physical.

I can feel your pain dear Adriana (although to some slutty girls it may seem like a blessing). It’s never easy being objectified when we have so much more to bring to the table. Be up front and tell them your feelings when it comes to sex. Trust me, the sleazes will dash for the door when they realize there will be no “wham bam, thank you mam” happening on your watch. Let their actions be a beacon steering you though the haze of the opposite sex’s advances and into a healthy relationship.

-The Ambassador