It can be difficult to be around someone if you have feelings for them, but don’t want to be in a committed relationship. It’s even tougher when it is clear that they want to be in a relationship with you. Obviously “MeetXRiley,” you’ve made it clear to him that you don’t want to be tied down to one person right now, so he is going to flirt to his heart’s content with your friends in hopes of striking at your heart in your own metaphorical backyard…and it appears it’s working (i.e. your confusion over the situation).
This guy wants you to be jealous, in regards to him hitting on your friends, and his plan is obviously in full stride. You’re beginning to question whether you want to be in a relationship with him or not.
My suggestion to you is to take this one of two ways. Either you can cut ties with him and let him try the jealousy lure on another girl, or you can just continue along with your friendship and not allow these actions to bother you or impact your decision. I would personally suggest the latter of the two.
Show him that you are confident in yourself and that you are mature enough to understand that since you both aren’t in a committed relationship with one another, he is allowed to flirt with other women. Don’t show any signs of this bothering you and try flirting with another guy…watch how quickly he stops flirting with your friends.
In my opinion this guy is definitely reaching if he has begun hitting on your friends, this is just an immature tactic to try and woe you into a relationship out of fear that he will find someone new.
Dearest MeetXRiley, don’t fall victim to his game of “look what I can do.” Stay strong and stay independent. Trust me, when the right person comes along you’ll definitely know if you’re relationship ready.
-The Ambassador